Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Historical first
From an article on parenting in NYTimes:
In the absence of tools that really work...
This fact has never before been admitted by a "respectable" writer. All the way back to Dr Spock, the standard Commie line has always been that spanking doesn't work; that spanking only "teaches the child to use violence as a solution".
Could the elites actually be learning something, instead of the normal mislearning, dyslearning and antilearning? One can always hope. ¶ 10:10 AM
Many in today’s pregnancy-flaunting, soccer-cheering, organic-snack-proffering generation of parents would never spank their children. We congratulate our toddlers for blowing their nose (“Good job!”), we friend our teenagers (literally and virtually), we spend hours teaching our elementary-school offspring how to understand their feelings. But, incongruously and with regularity, this is a generation that yells.
“I’ve worked with thousands of parents and I can tell you, without question, that screaming is the new spanking,” said Amy McCready, the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, which teaches parenting skills in classes, individual coaching sessions and an online course. “This is so the issue right now. As parents understand that it’s not socially acceptable to spank children, they are at a loss for what they can do. They resort to reminding, nagging, timeout, counting 1-2-3 and quickly realize that those strategies don’t work to change behavior. In the absence of tools that really work, they feel frustrated and angry and raise their voice. They feel guilty afterward, and the whole cycle begins again.”
In the absence of tools that really work...
This fact has never before been admitted by a "respectable" writer. All the way back to Dr Spock, the standard Commie line has always been that spanking doesn't work; that spanking only "teaches the child to use violence as a solution".
Could the elites actually be learning something, instead of the normal mislearning, dyslearning and antilearning? One can always hope. ¶ 10:10 AM
